Not to you, but for you

Here’s one of the most limiting thoughts you can have during your day: “Why did this happen to me?”

Something doesn’t go our way, we make a mistake, or our plans are interrupted - and we immediately question why this happened to us.

When we ask the question this way, we get in the habit of looking at life from the perspective of a passive participant. It’s the perspective of someone who is constantly having things happen to them.

It makes it feel like something outside of our reach will always have the ultimate influence over the way things turn out.

This kind of thinking robs us of our power, our confidence, and our clarity.

Try this:

The next time you catch yourself thinking this way, flip that thought.

Instead of asking “Why did this happen to me,” ask: “How did this happen for me?”

When you ask the question this way, it allows you to move from being a passive participant to an active participant in what happens next.

You shift from being someone who has things happening to them all day to someone who has the power of choice.

You can choose to view anything that happens as an opportunity to transcend an old way of thinking and grow into a new state of mind.

If you become someone who always looks at things as happening for you, then there’s always a takeaway.

The answer to the question “How is this happening for me?” might not present itself right away, or it might not be an answer you like.

But the answers to this question are the answers that help us the most.

It’s called growth.

And it starts with changing the way you ask the question.

Things don’t happen to you, they happen for you.

Go have a great workday.